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Sport Against Suicide

Supporting After Attempted Suicide.

Talking to someone who has attempted suicide is similar to talking to someone who has suicidal ideation or intent. Its the importance of listening non judgmentally and allowing the person to know they are supported and accepted, heard and understood. Its not difficult and there is nothing to be afraid of. However. You maybe finding it difficult to know how to support someone who has attempted suicide because you feel you don’t know what to say or do, you may feel worried that you will say the wrong thing. It can be extremely difficult to find the right words when you’re feeling overwhelmed and upset, You may even feel confused. 


Common feelings and reactions to a suicide attempt


  • Anger: You may feel angry, How could they do this to us?
  • Shame: you may feel that you have to keep this secret, how will it look to others..
  • Guilt: Didn’t I love/listen to them enough?
  • Fear: You may feel afraid that they will  try again?
  • Avoidance: If we pretend this didn’t happen, it will just go away.
  • Minimisation: They are just trying to get attention. Downplay the suicide attempt
  • Cutting off: This is not my problem – someone else can deal with it.


The important thing is to try and create an environment where the person feels safe, supported, and understood. Letting the person know you support them, and asking open-ended questions, can help ease the communication. Starting the conversation need not be hard.


Here are some ideas on how to start the conversation:

  • I’m sorry you’ve been feeling so low. I’m so glad you’re still here.
  • I’m here for you and you can always talk to me.
  • I want to help you. How can I support you?


First, you want to ensure that the person is safe. Remove possible means to harm or suicide, including drugs and alcohol.. Also Remember that you are not filling the role of a counselor or therapist. You are looking to encourage them to access professional support that is available to them and don't feel you must do it all alone, ask for the help of others to help support the person.


  • Its a good idea to learn what to say and not to say to someone after a suicide attempt as this will help the person feel heard and supported. 


These are just some examples.

  • I don’t know how you feel, but I am here to help you.
  • I am always a phone call away.
  • I am here to listen if you want to talk or I am happy to sit with you for a while.
  • I am usually up early or late. So I'm here If you need me, just call .
  • How can I be here for you, what help can I give you?
. Avoid saying things like:
  • Why did you do this?
  • life is so precious, why would you do this?
  • But i thought everything in your life is great.
  • People have it worse than you.
  • Do you have any idea of how sad we would be? 
  • I've felt like that lots of times but id never go through with it.


 

Unhelpful reactions to a suicide attempt

It also is important for you to be aware of your own feelings, and avoid reacting in any way that could block communication or cause the person to withdraw or cause further pain.


Unhelpful responses include:

  • Panicking: 
  • Name-calling:
  • Criticising: 
  • Preaching  
  • Ignoring them: 
  • Abandoning the person: 
  • Punishing them: : 
  • Simplifying things /down playing
  • Being angry or offended
  • Making the person feel guilty or selfish


Be available and let the person know you will listen. It is important to create a safe space for the person to talk – this helps build or re-establish trust between you and the person you are concerned about.  Know that asking someone directly about suicide does not trigger suicidal ideation or action, it is often the most effective way to open up constructive conversation that will give them permission to talk while feeling you understand. 
Things you can do together.

  • Support the person in developing realistic plans and solutions to deal with their emotional pain. This will help to let go of suicide as the only solution, seeing real changes in their life is an solid step to recovery. But, make small steps in the beginning, as the person's difficulties haven't been created overnight. Even helping them start with small tasks can be important such as delivering a package or cleaning out a cupboard.
  • Work with the person, and a mental health professional on a safety plan in the event that they start to feel suicidal again. Having a concrete plan in place may help both of you feel more prepared and in control about the possibility of future suicidal thoughts.


If you are in college, school or sports academy and a friend attempts suicide or has thoughts of harming themselves, reach out to your welfare or safeguarding officer and get help from confidential resources. Being far away from family can feel like you have to fill the parent role. Remember that there are several resources in the community that will support you both. 


Looking After Yourself


Supporting someone who has attempted suicide can be emotionally draining and exhausting. It is not possible to be there and watch over someone 24/7. So It is vital that you look after yourself and get the support you need too. You do not need to deal with this alone. So make sure you have adequate support in place for yourself. Identify trusted family members or friends that you can talk to, or join a local support group. If you are finding it difficult to deal with, you may also wish to consider seeking counseling or other professional support for yourself.
Helplines. 


Samaritans 116 123 

Calm 0800 585858

Papyrus 0800 0684141

Young Minds (text) 85258
Remember its ok to talk about suicide!
 


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